Hang out with strong friends that have good relationships…

I think your daughter will be okay with a bit of a break from a man who calls her a piece of crap and a mongoloid.

As for cutting him out of your life, all you probably have to do is offer to not ever pursue him for child support. If you get yourself in a position where HE suggests this, all the more successful it will be. posted by cairdeas at 7:20 PM on [5 favorites]

His being a part of his child’s life doesn’t give him license to fuck you or to fuck you over.

Now you’ve told us, right?

Also, as I often do, let me recommend Facing Codependence by Mellody, Miller, and Miller. My guess is that you’ll find a lot of it resonant. posted by Sidhedevil at 7:21 PM on

My mom stuck around with my dad (whom this man reminds me of) because she thought I « needed a father in my life. » It wasn’t until I was about ten and I asked her « Mommy, why are you still with Dad? He makes you cry a lot and he’s mean to us, » that she realized how dumb she was being and filed for divorce.

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Trust me on this – the absence of one parent is much better than the presence of a crappy parent. Keeping him in your life will only hurt your d on [12 favorites]

I should also say that it sounds like « no relationship » or « very limited relationship » might be the best option, given everything you’ve shared about this man’s lack of integrity, but you need to get past lumping the two issues together

I’ve been seeing a therapist for a phobia and have touched on this issue but I am so embarrassed to tell anyone about all the details because I look so stupid for putting up with it and taking him back.

And none of us think you are stupid. Look, I went back to a guy who told me I couldn’t come with him to visit his family at Christmas because there was no space for me (so I spent Christmas alone in a city across the country from all my friends and family) and instead flew to try to have sex with a girl he had met that summer. Lire la suite de « Hang out with strong friends that have good relationships with men » →